To make a statement such as that might cause some to wonder if John really believes what he teaches. He would permit a onetime incident between two women operating in “the spirit of jezebel”, to quote John, and take control of their emotions, cause him to terminate a 13 year relationship. I think Ryan put it about as well as it can be said, “dad is guilty of hate via marriage, and if your spouse hates someone you are required to hate them also”.